Ching Szuen

sometimes, you realise, it is not an issue, or a problem, or a focus that is the challenge. it is not overcoming it. it is not how big or small it is. it is not about how trivial or huge it is. sometimes, it’s just the principal of how things should be that’s the problem. not if you are able to get past it. over it. done with. it is how or what method is used to get past it. over it. done with.

if it doesn’t make sense to you, or you don’t understand what i’m talking about, then you shall be forgiven. because i’m typing this while being quite irrational, yet holding my principal firm. it’s not always a good thing of course. in fact, it’s usually a bad thing. but i guess if something’s important to me, then it just is. you know what i mean?

i’d like to quote something that vee ann has said before that stuck in my mind up till now. she said..’i let him (her bf) win or decide on certain things because i know it is more important to him than it is to me’. that really struck my mind. because usually, i would tell ppl ‘anything’ or ‘anywhere’, because i know it may be more important for them to decide on things. more important relative to me anyway.

now, it is not that i can’t decide, or that i don’t have an opinion. it’s just that i rather let others decide because it could be more important to them. now i know i’m repeating myself, but i’m just trying to drive that point home. so at times when i feel something is important to me, something that i hold dear to my heart, then i really hope that others would use vee ann’s perspective and say…’ok…i care about his feelings, and i want him to be happy. so if it’s more important to him that certain things are done a certain way, then we’ll do it his way.’ yes, it’s a sacrifice. but truthfully, for any two people to live with each other or get along, there’ll always be sacrifices on each person’s part.