it’s friday night tonight…
…and i’m spending it alone at home. and let me tell you what…this is crap. but i guess i have little choice. so i shall spend this time typing in here. now…today i was asked how was my time in manchester…again. yes, i’ve been asked that many times before. i rarely know how to answer that question. that’s cos whenever i think back to manchester, i think back to the unhappiness that dawned upon me when i was there. right from the first moment i stepped into the place to the moment i went back. but i would never say i had a bad time there because i made some friends there, had a good experience living alone in a foreign country, learned the means of being independent, and built my character. i had gained so much despite the sad times.
so why am i talking about this yet again? this is because i realise sometimes we spend so much time being upset. upset about the little things. a joke here. a nudge there. little harmless things like that sometimes make us upset. yes, sometimes we get upset over mindless things. and then you sit and think back, and you realise how dumb you were to be upset at all. and that’s it’s not worth it at all.
when you get upset over silly things, you may forget to just let loose and enjoy the moments, the good times. maybe i’m not qualified enough to speak about being upset over some things but i’m going to anyway. see..some sensitive topics will always be just that, sensitive. for example, few could tolerate jokes about their moms however little offense the joke is meant to cause. or for others, like me, i could never tolerate when anyone insults the people i love. you know…that kinda thing. so…i guess what i’m saying here is that we should be able to laugh at ourselves, let loose, and not worry too much about things because when you worry too much, you forget about the present. and sad to say, for the past few years, i’ve always worried too much that i rarely got to fully enjoy the present. so now…i just want to enjoy my present. and i hope you do too.
and another thing. a colleague asked me if i like a girl who’s always obedient or just has a mind of her own. the answer would be what i’d imagine to be anyone’s answer. balance. you’d want a girl to be obedient and listen to you. you’d want a girl who’ll let you be the man, who’ll let you take charge. as a man, you don’t wanna be controlled. you’d want a say in the decision making process. at the same time, you’d want a girl who has opinions. a girl who’ll be able to make up her mind. a girl who’ll stimulate you mentally. so…i guess it’s all about compromise. giving and taking at various points. this concept may be lost on some but this is what life is about. you take sometimes, and other times, you give. don’t you think so?
January 14th, 2007 at 4:39 am
yes i totally agree… no bimbo or not one who is too smart..
January 17th, 2007 at 3:30 am
yeap. that’s the ideal case, but the more we are insecure and feel we need her, the more we’ll compromise / give in. So, it’s not totally her, it’s also us guys that contribute to the elements of the equation…in short, we can’t describe a girl as “obedient” or “having a mind of her own” without considering “who is she obedient to?” and “who she shock sendiri to?”
how have u been ?
February 28th, 2007 at 1:26 pm
FINE I WILL STOP GETTING MIFFY ABOUT YOUR “SINGAPOREAN GIRLS LOOK BETTER” COMMENT.
But I just may hold it against you in decades to come..:oP
And I think people compromise/give in not always out of insecurity, but because they realise that on whatever particular issue it is, it means a lot more to the other person than it does to us.
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If that makes sense.
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