may i ask…
…you something? say, for example, you are madly in love with a person. but the person tells you, ‘i’m getting married, i’d like for you to come for my wedding’. what would you do? what would be your response? will you be able to pretend like it doesn’t cause you a single bit of distress and just go ahead and attend it? or would you politely decline in full knowledge that you’re too in love with the person to see him (for the avoidance of doubt, ‘he’ represents both gender, lawyer style, in case any of you think i’m ghey) walk away with another person? my choice, i think, would be the latter.
see, what i think is this. if you are truly in love with a person, you’d want him to be happy. of course you do. and ppl say that one’s wedding day should be the best day in his life. so you wouldn’t wanna attend the wedding and look all depressed on the person’s special day, right? you wouldn’t wanna attend and then whisper to yourself while you’re there, ‘curse that lucky bugger. oh what i’d give up just to be the one up there.’ is that really how you wanna spend the time on their wedding day?
and then of course there’s the whole pain of seeing them just virtually disappear from your life, knowing that he’s so far away from you, you’d be lucky to be able to meet up with him once every 6 months. if you’re in love with him, you’d surely give them both your blessings and wish them all the best, but will you able to see them walk the aisle while you’re looking on from the sidelines?
my thought is that i can’t. i am not good enough at pretending like i don’t care. i am not good enough at acting like the world is all bright and breezy. that said, i may be able to do it when the time comes. maybe not. i don’t know. but i would rather not spend another second contemplating what i’d do. so…just food for thought i guess…
btw, just to make it clear, i’m not in that kinda position. just in case any of you try to be funny about me facing this situation about some guy who’s having a ghey marriage with another guy. hmmm…intriguing nevertheless….haha…
