so i’m back in manc again…
…and it’s not too pleasant having to sit for exams in a few days and being in the library now. yes i’m supposed to study and i actually am cos my notes are online but taking a mini break now. well i’m mainly typing here cos i just wonder about the term ‘giving space’ or ‘time’ to someone for her to sort her things out. i’m saying ‘her’ cos..well…guys are simple. and women just boggles my mind on a daily basis. i used to think it’s important to push and settle things right away to find out whether they’re going well or not. and that to leave them hanging around for a long time will just make the situation worse, as more wild thoughts fill our head over time wondering. and then i was introduced the method of leaving space and time for a person to think things out themselves cos some people need that in certain situations.
i have tried both methods, and both has caused me problems. when i do push for things, i may possibly be pressuring the person into something they rather not be involved with. and when i give the mentioned space and time, i would probably be thought to be not caring about whatever it is, or whoever it is. so what is it that needs to be done when different situation arises? perhaps the timing of which method to take is essential? but then again, these lack of understandings boils down to the break down of communication between 2 people, right? so why do people just hate talking about what they’re thinking and stop keeping things to themselves? i really don’t get this whole concept and i’m starting to doubt my ability to handle my relationships with people. it’ll just be so much better if people used their mouths and just say what they have to say, and stop making others wonder, and at the same time come out telling one another the truth so that whatever weird permutations of events between the 2 would be eliminated and only the truth would surface. and since only the truth is known by both parties, then there’ll be no need to wonder whether to give ’space and time’ or to push through for the solution. yes?
p/s if you noticed, this is another colour again. to be honest i don’t know if i’ve used this colour before cos i’ve lost track of all the colours and computers i’ve used. so heck it, you’re ghey. btw..this is uni computer..=D
